Years ago my husband was a recruiter, that was back before the Army started downsizing again. It was also before they reduced the work hours to a normal job. Back in those days when you didn’t put anyone into the Army that month, you rolled a donut. That was not good. My husband took on that job like he has every other job, he refused to fail. He went far as a recruiter, he won the ring, carried the station many months and did his best. I remember when my husband and I were first talking, he told me that he knew that when we got married that we would be a great team. We both respected each other.
Some where between the “I Do’s” and the long hours we forgot that respect. We didn’t want to be a statistic, on those days divorce in the military was highest amongst recruiters. God had a different plan you see, despite the highs and lows in our marriage God had us wrapped in his arms, when the 2 of us thought we couldn’t go on, God just held on tighter! I am so glad that we went through that, I know you may be thinking how on EARTH could I be glad that we went through that? Well because it has lead us to HERE, to TODAY.
My husband just started a new job in a new unit, he is also getting promoted. With all that comes more responsibility and of course more hours. If I had not went through what I went through in recruiting, between the marriage issues, porn, and other family things that came up. I probably would have been upset when he was telling me about the long hours at this new job, you see nothing could be worse then the hours we had then! His phone rang ALL the time, it wasn’t just work it was kids wanting to enlist, we never once for 4 years got to just do anything without not just ONE cell phone, but he had 2!!!
Going through recruiting and surviving and not just surviving but thriving, has taught us both so much. My husband has learned to make the most of when he is home. I have learned that so many little things just don’t matter, what matters is what you do with the time you do have, not always wishing for time that just isn’t there. I have also learned that my husband not being able to always do his 100 % is NOT an excuse for me not doing my 100 percent. I am responsible for my 100 percent regardless, and that includes my attitude.
So as my husband gets ready to take on this new job, I have a much different outlook then I had once upon a time, I see what he does as selfless ( I did then too but couldn’t get past ME ME ME), I see what he does as pretty amazing and I am so very proud of all he has done. I know how hard he works and I know that he is doing it not just for me and our kids, he is doing it for all Americans. I also know that my attitude sets the tone for our house and marriage….ladies this is so true! We can build our husbands up or tear them down, our men need to be built up! When the times get tough I know can go to the word and find comfort in the following, I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty.
I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:11-13 My life verse has also became Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8. It isn’t always easy to reheat dinner, again. To eat with just the kids, again but it is ALL about attitude. Chose to have joy, chose to find joy and be content.