I have been privileged and honored with the opportunity to be selected as part of the review teams for several parenting resources lately. If you would like to read other reviews, you can do so HERE and HERE. When I was shown the cover, title and background information for Motivate your Child I knew this was not just a review, rather a resource I needed in my own library!
My oldest is currently trudging through pre-teen lack of motivation syndrome. I understand most, if not all, kids go through this stage. However, we wanted to instill a sense of urgency and show our kids how to work through this stage. We wanted to teach our kids how to become motivated and remain motivated as they take care of their responsibilities. Ideally, our kids would find their motivation without having to be motivated by Mom and Dad. Here are some of the topics that are covered in Motivate Your Child:
- Part 1: Moral Development in Children. This section covers a vast array of topics from internal versus external motivation, helping kids choose to do what’s right, when kids make mistakes, integrity, compassion, consequences, and much much more!
- Part 2: Spiritual Development in Children. In this section the authors discuss God’s plan, Family Time once a week, Relationships, scripture+creativity=impact, practicing faith teaches that it is real, Leading a child to Christ, Children and the Holy Spirit, Connecting Children to the Bible, and much much more!
This book was exactly what I was looking for! An excerpt from page 3 read, “Are you dressed? Did you eat breakfast?…Where are your shoes?…Dad and Mom realized that they were functioning as the conscience for each of their kids, prompting them forward each step of the way.”
That is very real to our life when we have to get out of the house for co-op and other events. My oldest is 11 now and I want him to learn to get all that stuff together and be motivated on his own. Mornings with ADHD/Aspergers are
hard extremely difficult! He will be fine an hour or so after he is awake, but morning hygiene, eating breakfast and getting out the door is HARD HARD HARD! I personally was thankful for this book and I could tell from the very beginning that it was going to be so helpful!
Shortly after the paragraph on page 3 from above, the authors state that moral development in children doesn’t come from a psychology textbook. The moral development comes from the Bible.
At the end of Chapter 3 there is a quiz that you can take to see what areas of strength and weakness that your child has in his/her conscience. It is a very detailed quiz too! Make sure your totally forthright answering it, so you know where you need to start with your children.
“Responsibility is doing what you know you should do, even when you don’t want to do it.” Quote from Chapter 4
As adults we have to do the dishes, clean the toilets, and do the mounds of laundry even if we just do not want to do them. Kids need to learn that even if it isn’t a task that they love, that they still have to complete the job and complete it correctly. This should start at a young age. For example a child who takes his pajamas off and leaves them laying on the floor of his bedroom. He needs to learn responsibility of picking them up and putting them either in the dirty cloths or away so he can wear them again. The book not only gives you issues like a child leaving pajamas on the floor, but it also gives solutions for kids of all ages! I don’t know about you but sometimes I feel like I have ran out of ideas of ways to reach my kids heart strings. I want them to obey, but I also want to reach their heart and equip them in ways that will last for life.
I loved all the chapters but I must say I was blown away by Chapter 19.
“The Solution doesn’t begin at the White House; the solution begins at my house.”
It is so important to help children connect the heartstrings to the Bible. In order for the Bible to do its work in the hearts of children, it’s important to expose them to it in ways they can understand. The word of God is there to transfer it to the minds and hearts of the people, which results in a lifestyle of practical service to him. My oldest has an amazing gift for memorizing scripture. However, his break down comes from APPLYING that to his life. He is VERY VERY VERY well spoken about what the Bible says and can have a conversation about it with anyone, including Pastors. However, connecting it has been a challenge for him, so I was so excited to see this chapter!
I loves this book and think that this is a wonderful resource for all parents to have! I give this book a 5/5. If you want a copy you can get yours below: