The Song Movie Review
Last week I began a discussion on porn and the heartache it can cause in a marriage. Although I didn’t cover all that I could have, it was a brief glimpse into my own personal experience. I also covered why we, as Christian ladies, should avoid all appearances of evil. If you missed that post you can read it by clicking HERE.
When I left off last week I spoke about the beauty of sex: GOD’S WAY
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine. Song of Solomon 1:2
Prior to my husband’s deployment, I heard a sermon about “tit for tat” in a marriage and how it wasn’t Biblical. SIGH! After extensive research, I still have not found it in scripture. Isn’t it in there somewhere? LOL This sermon was very moving for both Clay and me. It reminded us that regardless of Clay’s choices, I was still responsible for my 100%. Clay was also responsible for his 100%, but we’re talking about me. This was a hard pill to swallow because didn’t he hurt me to the core? So why do I still have to do my 100%???? Because the Bible says so, that’s why. When we married, we became one. When he was sinning, this wasn’t my “get out of jail free” card where I could equally sin. This sermon was honestly life changing for me. I realized that while trying to move forward in our marriage and forgive, I was punishing him. I punished him in different ways, but mostly it was concerning dinner or chores around the house. He would come home from a long day at work, hungry and tired, but I would tell him I took the kids through the drive through instead of cooking. Sometimes, I would leave the house and go shopping or take the kids somewhere all day, knowing that we would get home about the same time. He was expecting dinner, but I was expecting him to suffer. There is nothing like a woman scorned, right? My sins and attitude were honestly no better than my husbands. In fact, they were exactly the same.
Like I said, that sermon was the life changing moment for our marriage. Shortly after dedicating ourselves to our own 100%, I was pregnant with our third child and Clay had a medical condition. I honestly feared for the worst. Although it wasn’t necessarily a life or death situation, we were faced with the possibility that we may never be able to be intimate in that way again. Clay finally had his real breaking point. He had put forth every ounce of effort at repenting from his sins of pornography and taking up the cross. Yet, there were moments we still struggled to get over it all. I will never forget him crying in our bedroom telling me he could never make it up to me, but he was so sorry. I remember him saying that he would do anything to fix it and he was determined to be the husband God called him to be. I realized then that if I was truly going to be in the marriage, it was time for me to lay it all at the foot of the cross. I had to finally let the Lord take complete control of absolutely everything in my life-including forgiveness-total and complete forgiveness.
Then Clay came down on orders for Iraq. I had a million thoughts going through my head. Will we survive this as a couple? Will he fall back into porn without me being there to hold his hand? What if……
I had to cry it all out to the Lord. I had to again lay it at the cross. He was deploying and there was nothing I could do to stop it. So, I could either ruin the time we had remaining by all this “stuff” or I could let Jesus have control. So we continued to heal.
While he was gone I began to write him letters. I felt compelled for us to share the Song of Solomon, the TRUE Biblical “sex” story with each other.
Draw me, we will run after thee: the king hath brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will remember thy love more than wine: the upright love thee. Song of Solomon 1:4
At first, I thought he might think it was cheesy, but that was me again comparing myself to a porn star, not the Godly woman and lover of my husband. Clay loved it. Sheew :). So I continued and as he wrote to me, I wrote back to him. Back and forth across the ocean Song of Solomon traveled. As I wrote and Clay read and then wrote back, I begin to heal. With each letter, phone call, or chat time my heart healed more. So I am very partial to the Song of Solomon. When I read it now, I am almost moved to tears each time because it has such special memories in my life of a time when I was broken. A time when God took his arms and His Word and wrapped them around me and restored to me the piece of my heart that was missing.
Clay proved to be quite the romantic while he was gone, a side of him I didn’t really know existed :). I felt like a school girl reading each letter, blushing a bit and feeling my heart whole and complete. When Clay returned, our marriage was never better! God had healed us. All things are possible with God.
I was contacted recently and asked if I wanted to attend a pre-screening of the movie “The Song.” I watched the movie trailer and responded with an emphatic “YES!” The trailer looked good but I was more interested in a faith-based movie about the Song of Solomon. Ladies, we hear all the hype about 50 Shades of Grey…please avoid that! Go see The Song!!! The movie made me cry sitting there watching it. It wasn’t because it was an overly sappy movie or anything, but it was OUR story (sort of)! Our story was being played out right on the big screen, and did I mention it was faith-based? But not only is it our story, it is also the story of so many other Christian marriages who are dealing with many of the same experiences.
Christians are lining up to see the overly sexed entertainment that is being shoved in our faces. Christians are flocking to the book stores or ordering on-line the books that promote spiritual immorality. I am thrilled that THIS movie has come out. I wish I could give it a 20/10 because it really was that good!
Go see it and see the rest of mine and Clay’s story:). We don’t have the fairy tale wedding and life hasn’t always been easy for us. However, what Clay and I have is what The Song shows – Redemption. Our precious Lord and Savior died on the cross so that sinners such as us could have Redemption.
Here is the movie trailer for The Song and it premiers September 26!!!!
So what did I wear? This outfit is what I wore to the Pre-Screening 🙂
Headband: Garlands of Grace
Melon Shirt: Thrift shop
Sweater: I honestly cannot remember where I got this at….the store was closing in WA and I got it for just a couple dollars.
Tank Top: Old Navy
Skirt: Ok ya’all it’s a jean skirt AGAIN but it is a different one HAHA! I got this one at the Dress Barn on clearance last year
PS. Update, you can buy The Song HERE.