Serving and Motherhood
The Bible tells us to go into all the world and preach the gospel. As children attending church, we were taught to serve in some capacity. We were encouraged to serve outside our community, within our community, and volunteering at the church or in a church activity. How does this apply to mothers? Let’s face it, some days it’s hard to get out of our pajamas, let alone embark in serving.
As mothers, there are days when we don’t feel good enough. We don’t feel like we are doing enough, serving enough, teaching our kids enough, that we just simply do not and can not measure up to Sally Jane who seems to have it all together.
Mommas, guilt is a lie of the devil! He is trying to steal your joy of Motherhood and place you in a cage of guilt! The enemy puts that seed of doubt in our minds when we begin to tell ourselves, “Why bother serving any way? I am terrible at it.” Take the guilt you’re feeling and hold it to scripture.
First, the Bible calls us Mommas to take care of our own house first. Yes, I know serving is important, but ladies we are responsible first and foremost to our own homes and families.
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:5
God places a high value on His children. You are His child and your children are His children. God places an extreme importance in you teaching those little ones and training them in the way they should go. And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. Deuteronomy 6:7-9
Remember in Mark when Jesus told the disciples to let the little children come to Him and to not hinder them? That shows a perfect example of how much value that God places on children. The Bible refers to children in many places. We are called to train up a child in the way he should go and if we want our children to follow the Lord, we need to be setting the example. We must talk with them about God, read our Bible with them or in their presence, and discipline our kids. Discipline is derived from the word “disciple”, which means to “train and to teach.”
Motherhood charges us to shape little hearts and souls for the Lord. What could be a higher calling than that? Our children are also not our own (sorry, ladies, that doesn’t mean there is a return policy :). It means that God has loaned them to us. He has hand picked you, specifically, to teach and train your child FOR him. Our ultimate goal in life should be…correction….IS TO glorify our Father in Heaven, so that would mean we teach our children to do the same thing.
Mommas, while your children are small, don’t feel guilty for making them your primary ministry. Do children need to see you serve? Absolutely! This is wonderful training for them to see this and also an encouragement to them to serve in various aspects of the ministry themselves as they grow older. However, it is okay to set limits. Know what you can handle in addition to taking care of your kids. If you’re constantly having to leave Johnny at the babysitter because you have to serve in the church, it may be time to reevaluate your priorities. It’s alright to do that on occasion, and goodness knows a break is needed from our kids on occasion to relieve stress, but you have to learn to balance.
I have heard parents say that they would love to home school and that their kids would be better off in home school than in public school. These same parents are also teachers, but they feel called to serve the Lord by teaching. This may step on some toes, but ladies, God is NOT going to call you to serve on a regular ongoing basis away from your own children. We are called to be Keepers of the Home, but this does not mean we cannot work so don’t throw tomatoes at me yet :). This means that we must be careful that what we choose to do does not become an idol itself. We must be attentive that our work outside the house does not come at the expense of our own family, and this includes the ministry.
I value the importance of the ministry. I have worked in different ministries ranging from counselor and planning committee of church camp, Bible study leaders for women and kids, AWANA, teens…you name it! Currently, my husband is in Seminary and see the importance in the world. I know how frustrating it is to have a ministry with no one helping. What usually happens? Wives are usually the first to jump up and say ME ME ME!! LOL! Listen, sometimes it really is okay to say “No”. It’s alright to miss an event because Johnny has an ear infection or Jane has a tummy ache.
Remember ladies, this is just a season. Our children are little once and as they grow older, you will have more opportunities to serve and serve as a whole family. I tell you this because we are at that point now. My oldest, despite my saying no to many things when he was a baby, has a true heart to serve because we have always taught him the importance of serving. My children know that before the ministry outside our house that they are our first ministry. With that said, I am enjoying the fact that they are older and I can be the hands and feet of Jesus more now then when they were babies.
Where do you stand on the ministry and motherhood? Do you find it hard to say no? I would love to hear from you! Don’t forget to subscribe to my blog so you don’t miss a single post! 🙂
So what did I wear?
First, I apologize my hair is a mess. I woke up later and needless to say I left with it wet…and it snowed 🙂
Dress: Dainty Jewells
Sweater: I have had it so long I have no idea. I THINK target.
Boots: Anne Klein