Modesty vs Legalism
The Webster Definition of modesty is:
1.: the quality of not being too proud or confident about yourself or your abilities
2.: the quality of behaving and especially dressing in ways that do not attract sexual attention
The Webster Definition of Legalism is:
Here are some tips on sharing modesty with others:
- Pray before you do anything. This should be adhered to either in person, through email, or especially on Facebook or another form of social media.
- Read over the scriptures on Titus 2 and being a mentor.
- Be mindful of the words that you say (or type). Ladies be very careful that when you’re sharing about modesty with someone, that you are not attacking them or being rude and hateful. Say what you have to say in Christian love. Remember, God has extended numerous amounts of grace to you personally and I ask that you please extend the same to other sisters in Christ.
- If you’re confronting in person, I suggest taking another sister with you, preferably an older sister who can be looked up to as a Titus 2 mentor.
- If you’re on Facebook or the world-wide web, again state your thoughts in love. If the person does not seem receptive, then PLANT A SEED and walk away. You do not have to kick the horse when it is down ladies!
- Set an example. Remember that modesty starts in the heart and applies to our actions, our speech, as well as our dress.
- Remember that there are some things that are convictions instead of things that are mandated by God’s word. These are NOT salvation issues; so while you may share your thoughts or why you do things, it is not a sin to have different convictions.
- Before you post a comment on a person’s wall, think how you would feel if that person commented the same on your wall. It might be best to send that person a PM.
I hope this post is a blessing and an encouragement to you about sharing modesty with others. I would love to see more and more women embracing modesty, embracing being a woman, and embracing femininity. Remember that God wants you to do the right things, including modesty. Once we have been saved, our walk with Christ should grow stronger every day and during that walk we should be encouraged and want to live for Him. This means that modesty and other hot topics should be something we want to do because we love Him. God is pleased when we bring Him honor because we love Him and reverence Him, not because of a legalistic set of rules. Let us also remember that just because you have on a skirt does not make you holier than someone who has on modest pants. Also, while we need to be careful to not be a stumbling block to men in what we wear. Our choice in garments should be made to bring honor to our husbands and to God, not build seeds of jealousy or envy or lust.
A dear friend of mine overheard a mother scold her daughter because her daughter was dressed modestly. Yes, you read that correctly. A girl who was approximately 13, maybe 14, was being scolded by her mother because she was dressed modestly. Her mother told her daughter that she will never find a man dressed the way she was. I ask, you, the readers, what kind of man do we want for our daughters? What kind of woman do we want for our sons? What kind of man will be attracted to that little girl if her mother requires her to dress more provocatively? That mother is sending the wrong message to her daughter. Unfortunately, this is what the mother has learned either from her mother, from a friend, from her environment, or from society as a whole. Now the mother will pass this down to her daughter, who will in turn pass it down to her daughter. This seed of immodest apparel is being passed down from one generation to the next. This though pattern of “sex sells” and the only way to get a man is showcasing your body is being ingrained from mother to daughter.
We shouldn’t change merrily for men, we should change for the most high, for our Lord and Savior. We should want for all of us to be modest, from our hearts to our clothing.
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There is NONE righteous, no not one.
So what did I wear? You get two outfits because I was cold after AM church.
Well this week I got 4 inches cut off my hair, it was high time since the last haircut I had was in 2012:). Today was not a very good day though because of the rain. Anyway on to the outfit:
Sweater: I LOVE this sweater!!! Bought at Christopher & Banks for 50% off 🙂
Dress: Bought at Goodwill for $3 a couple of weeks ago!
Tights: Aren’t they cute? I cannot remember where I got them but they were new and I think made for this outfit! lol
Boots: Bear Claw bought at the Exchange on clearance
After AM church we went to lunch and the last picture above was with a Sister in Christ. She also took my pictures today:). I was SO cold so before church tonight I changed into a different outfit.
Hair band: Garlands of Grace
Sweater: Walmart on clearance
Leggins: Deborah & Co.…I LOVE these too!!! They are fleece lined and SO warm!!!
Boots: Walmart-in Washington you cannot have to many pairs of rain boots lol