What does being a Keeper of the Home mean?
“She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.” Proverbs 31:15
“She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.” Provbers 31-20-22
“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
There are many things I can say that being a keeper of the home is NOT. Here are a few common myths:
- I literally stay in my home all the time
- I am bored ALL the time ( I wish! lol)
- What on earth could a keeper of the home find to do-all day long!
- I sit around eating bon-bons
- My house is ALWAYS clean (after all what else is there to do?:)
- My children are perfect little statues.
(The picture above is what our laundry room looked like after a week battling the flu!)
Ladies, I know that being a “Keeper of the Home” is a lot of work. Trust me, there are some days I would like to throw in the towel:). However, what would that teach my children? If you have children, little eyes are constantly watching you, ears are constantly listening and hearts are constantly taking in all that happens. So we must lead by example as wives.
Ladies, lets talk about what the Bible says being a “Keeper of the Home” is. In Titus 2:3-4 Paul addresses women working outside the home and he says the following:
- The older married ladies (not in age but in years married) are to teach the younger married ladies.
- They are to train them to love their husbands.
- Train them to love their children.
- To be self-controlled.
- To be pure.
- To be busy at home.
- To be Kind.
- To be subject to their husbands.
The Proverbs 31 lady, however, did sell her goods as a cottage business. Unfortunately, many take this as “she worked outside the home.” Reading and studying the scriptures, it seems she made items at home and then left to sell them. She didn’t have a “job” and she didn’t work to further her career or to keep up with the Jones’. She was constantly working hard to keep her house up, to keep her family clothed and in order. Her home business was second to her true calling- which was to take care of her husband, children, and her household.
So what does this mean?
Ladies, I know this isn’t a politically correct post, but it is straight from the word of God. We need to be very careful when deciding if we will work or not. I know that this can be the cause of much strife. However, when you have children, it is very important that you, as their mother, are there to take primary care of them. If you are working a 9-5 job, reflect back at how many hours that precious child is away from you each day. Count the hours of teaching, training, and influence that someone else has on your most precious possession. I know many will say they cannot afford to stay home. On paper (per se) that seems a legitimate excuse. However, I challenge you to weigh it financially. Is it truly beneficial for you to work outside your home? I know Dave Ramsey says in almost every case the woman spends more then she makes. It takes gas, upkeep on a vehicle, daycare/babysitting, extra clothing or a whole separate wardrobe, eating out, and the list goes on. All of those costs add up. Don’t forget to weigh in the fact that your child is being raised essentially by someone else.
And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes.And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates. Deuteronomy 6: 6-9
My friends, it is a precious precious gift to be able to stay home with your children and to be available for your spouse. Being a wife is a true gift and being a mother is the absolute highest calling. We should embrace that. The scripture above from Deuteronomy is impossible to follow if we are not the ones caring for our children the majority of the time.
There are times as a “Keeper of the Home” that we get discouraged. Take heart my friends that all the laundry you are constantly washing and drying, the jars you have canned, the diapers you have changed, and the meals you have prepared is all worth it. It is worth it because you are precious to your husbands and one day your children will rise up and call you blessed. It may not be tomorrow, or next week, but ladies it will happen.
Ladies, one more point I want to make, and this is something to think about, the divorce rate is 50%. Think about that and let it sink in a little. That means that half of all marriages end in a divorce. Another interesting statistic is the number of women in the workforce is also at 50%. Coincidence? In Titus we are called to be subject to our husbands. Another interesting topic to consider is your boss, who happens to be a male. A male other than our husband? Isn’t that misplacing the subjection and God’s design?
If you are not a stay at home wife/mother and want to be, let me know because I would love to pray for you! Also, if you are already a stay at home wife/mother I would love to pray for you and encourage you to continue doing what God has called you to do.
Modest Monday….what did I wear?
Today my husband preached his first sermon-ever- at our church. He did a fantastic job so I thought I would share what I wore there.
I thought I would include one of my handsome hubby preaching :).
Flexi Clip: Lilla Rose
Dress: eShakti ( isn’t it beautiful…I love the embroidery!)
Boots: I am not sure the brand now. They were bought at the exchange.
Make-Up: Mary Kay