Five Ways to Cultivate A Good Marriage
Traditional marriage rates are at some of the lowest we’ve ever seen. According to the CDC, only 7 out of every 1000 people married in 2015. The growing number of people choosing to remain unmarried seems to be climbing, while the sanctity of the family unit continues to be damaged.
There was a time when marriage was respected and a long marriage was honored. Marriage wasn’t just a piece of paper, it was a bond between two people, and those two people became one.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where it’s common to set up house and premarital sex seems like a natural thing. And for those who do opt to get married, divorce is not only an option, but a frequent occurrence.
This theology towards modern marriage is not what God has planned for the church according to Mark 10:6-9. We can find God’s plan of marriage throughout the Bible, even comparing His church and His love for it to that of a marriage. That love dwells within it. (Ephesians 5:25-33)
1 Corinthians 7 deals exclusively with marriage. Hebrews 13:4 tells us that marriage is still honorable and that adultery (and fornication) is sin, no matter what society would like for you to believe.
This theology towards modern marriage is not what God has planned for the church. (Mark 10:6-9) We can find God’s plan of marriage throughout the Bible, even comparing His church and His love for it to that of a marriage, and the love that dwells within it. (Ephesians 5:25-31 Corinthians 7 deals exclusively with marriage. Hebrews 13:4 tells us that marriage is still honorable and that adultery (and fornication) is still sin.
However, divorce is not a new age annulment. Divorce dates back to Old Testament times, but it is not something to be taken lightly. In Matthew 19, we can see that God only permits divorce under unfaithful circumstances.
A good marriage takes work. As Christians, how can we cultivate a good marriage?
- Put God first
God should always come before anything else. We are to strive to make Him the center of our lives, letting everything else revolve around Him. The Bible says God causes all things to work together for good to those who love Him (Romans 8:28). When we decide to put Christ at the center of our marriage, we will follow His word and are led by His truths. Thus, being dedicated to His plan for a good and Godly marriage.
2. Attend church together
This may seem like something trivial, but it’s such good stuff. By doing this, you are both following God’s word by being faithful to His house (Hebrews 10:25). You are spending quality time together and learning more about Christ, supporting each other in your Christian walk. This also gives you common ground to talk about Christ and opens conversation to help each other to follow more in His will.
3. Read your Bible together
We should be reading Christ’s word daily. By reading it with your husband/wife, you once again open a dialogue to learn more about Christ, but you’re learning together. You can talk about things that you don’t understand, and even help each other to be faithful in your readings by doing it together.
4. Pray together
Praying for your spouse is a given, but have you prayed with your spouse? Try setting a time aside each day to seek Him together. Seek Him for your families, for your community, for your church, and for your marriage. The Bible says that where two or more agree, it shall be done (Matthew 18:19). By coming together in prayer for mutual interests, God will honor your prayer. Praying together also creates an intimacy between a husband and wife, allowing vulnerabilities to be shown and strengthening marital bonds.
5. Fast together
Fasting is a way of sacrifice for a greater gain. It is putting aside the needs of the body in order to express the needs of the Spirit. All Godly marriages begin with Christ at the center. By fasting together, you are expressing the needs of the Spirit as a married unit. You are standing together for a common goal and creating a loyalty towards Christ, and between each other.
Marriage is ordained by God. It is a joyous covenant between a man and woman being blessed by God. If you ever need a reminder of how a man should love his wife, or a woman should love her husband, read Song of Solomon. Study the love of Hosea towards Gomer. Think about how God sent His son to die for our remission of sins.
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Cultivating a good marriage always ties back to God and sharing that love that He once showed us.