As parents and mothers, we have long thought that the best way to love our children was by treating them all equally. By treating our kids the same way, we are making things equal and make sure that our kids are loved.
Despite this popular belief, the best way to love your children is by identifying their primary love language and communicating your love based on this. Here are the five love languages for kids explained.
Physical Touch Love Language
One of the most common forms of this love language is through hugs and kisses, but you may have seen these in other forms, too. A mom reading to her kids with them all piled on her lap or a dad tossing his son into the air are all examples of physical touch.
For children with this love language, they will receive love more deeply through these acts than through words or receiving gifts. Playing sports or doing activities that require physical touch can also be a great way to show your child love through this type of love language.
Words of Affirmation Love Language
For children with this love language, words are more powerful than actions. Words of praise and endearment and positive guidance are going to make them feel deeply loved. This is also true about yelling or scolding them when they are being bad. These words will not be soon forgotten and can really hurt them.
To show your child love through this love language, consider not only telling them I love you but also words of praise when they’ve done something good. Put notes in their lunchbox with words of encouragement or ask to speak to your child while you’re calling home.
Quality Time Love Language
If your child’s love language is quality time, this means they will need your full and undivided attention. This is your way of saying that you are important to me and that I want to spend time with you. This can make your child feel loved when you make time for them even when you’re busy.
Remember that it is not about the activity or how you are spending your time, but that you are together doing it. If you have more than one child, consider spending quality time together, but also one on one as well. This will make them feel more special and let them know that you are only focusing on them right now.
Gifts Love Language
If receiving gifts is your child’s primary love language, then they are going to view gifts as symbols of love from you. While many children will respond in a positive manner to gifts, if this is your child’s love language, gifts can mean more than just something fun to do.
Children may beg and even break down and cry for things, but for those who have gifts as their primary love language, they will respond differently. They will see this as your way of showing that you love them and that you were thinking of them. Gifts don’t have to be expensive and can even be something as simple as a treat from the dollar store.
Acts of Service Love Language
Acts of service are most present in moms as they find themselves juggling so many things to do each and every day. However, in your children, they will communicate this by asking you to fix or do something for them. T
his does not mean that you need to jump on every task, but that this may your child’s way of asking for love. In an effort to show your child love and also independence, use caution with this love language. Think carefully before you turn them away and consider that they may not be hopeless, but rather feeling unloved.
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Knowing your child’s love language can not only help them feel more loved, but also ensure that you make each of your children feel loved in their own love language.
If you don’t know what your child’s love language is yet, consider taking this quiz on the five love languages website. Sit down with your kids and discuss it with them. If you are still at a loss, start paying closer attention to them. Usually, your primary love language is based on the way you are showing love and the type of requests you ask from others.